"Women don't dress up for me"
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"Women don't dress up for men, they dress up for each other." I was stunned. I couldn't understand the logic behind this for the life of me. It still makes me shake my head when I think about it. As it happens, I have lived in Southern California for a few years (San Diego and Los Angeles). This is a place where beautiful women from all over the world come to seek fame and fortune. I have been able to see things and learn things here that would have taken much longer to learn if I had lived in other places, because I can see how attractive women interact with EACH OTHER more often. If you put a group of attractive women together in a club or bar, and watch them carefully, you'll see something interesting begin to happen... The women will start doing "catty" things, like looking each other up and down with disgusted looks, making negative comments to their friends about how other women look, and trying to intimidate other women with their eyes. Most men would never notice this subtle communication that's going on between women, but if you look for it, you'll find it. The fact is that women don't like to compete with each other on the football field, they compete to be the most attractive. Men could really care less what a woman is wearing or how she's dressed for the most part. Sure, it's nice to see a woman dressed well, but it's just not that important. But for women it's a whole different matter entirely. Women, and especially attractive women, don't like the idea that another woman is getting more attention than her. And women can tell very quickly if another woman is more attractive... this leads to "bitch looks", negative comments, and other amazing displays. To summarize, women don't spend a lot of time fixing themselves up to get compliments, they do it to compete with and impress other women. Ask a few attractive, well-dressed women about this and they'll tell you. Finally, point #3... THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COMPLIMENTING A GIRL YOU DON'T KNOW VERY WELL AND A "SPECIAL" GIRL My topic is women and dating. WOMEN AND DATING. It's not "women you're in a relationship with" or "special girls" or anything of the sort. After you've gone out with a woman for a few months or so, and she proves to you beyond the shadow of a doubt that she's a great PERSON, then I think it's great to consider making her your "special girl." And yes, the dynamics change at that point. You can be nicer... you can be more complimentary... you can do more thoughtful things... At this stage this kind of thing will have a different meaning (BUT, DON'T EVER TURN INTO A WUSSY!) As I mentioned, if you start talking to an attractive woman and you immediately start with the "You are beautiful and I'm not worthy" routine, you shoot yourself in the foot. There's a HUGE opportunity in these first meeting situations, but most guys never even CONSIDER it because it's not what comes naturally. The thing to do when you meet an attractive woman is to actually TEASE AND BUST on her a bit, rather than giving her compliments. This effectively scrambles her whole program and causes her to lose her composure. It takes her off guard and shakes her out of her world... so you can actually have a conversation. Remember the newsletter awhile back with the guy who walks up to women and says, "Your fly is open", then walks away? The woman always comes and finds him to say, "You're a JERK!"... and then he laughs at her... and the woman winds up going out with him. Verrrrrry interesting. Do you think it would work the same way if he walked up to women and said, "You're amazingly beautiful" and then walked away? I think not. So in summary, it's true... women do in fact like compliments. But, if you want to make a woman feel that magical feeling of ATTRACTION for you, then you might think twice about giving them too early on. Women like compliments that they have to WORK FOR a lot more than the ones that just come to them. ...and if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself, "You know, I need to learn this stuff about how to meet and attract women so I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling I have", then YOU'RE RIGHT! I think that every man should invest in himself and learn this skill. Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and invest in themselves... and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds of women that they want. |
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7/19/2009 5:02 am |
common girls comment on this
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7/19/2009 9:14 pm |
 Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I just don't know what to say...you think you might be lumping all "woman" together? You confused me "Pretty Boy"
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7/20/2009 3:32 am |
Absolutely Correct. I give you an A+.
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7/20/2009 9:48 pm |
deja answer ur self how many times u seen other girls dresses and comapred with u and how many times u want to dress better than ur friend check ur self answer me back
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7/20/2009 9:49 pm |
thank u bom watch more for hot discussions
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7/25/2009 9:47 pm |
 Actually, Im "much" the tomboy - I love my jeans & tshirts!!! As long as Im comfy & Im happy!! But I do comment on how "fab" other women's dresses look or their hair!!! I never get "catty" about it though!!!
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7/28/2009 5:55 am |
then u may be unique of all girls deja its ok i am talking about people and where this percentage is very high compared to you and me like people as per natinal survey it is almost 83 percent . do ua gree with me and i ahve survey report also with me do u like see that?
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7/30/2009 6:17 pm |
Hmmmmmm....Im not really into surveys...Who are the "they" that give the surveys & who are the "they" that take the surveys??? Do we trust the "they(s)" that give the surveys & do we know that the "they(s)" who take the surveys are telling the truth??? Exactly who are the "they(s)" that give the survey???
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8/2/2009 6:28 am |
may be true deja how
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