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Take a look and browse through dating sites and you will find that there are as much married men as there are singles. Yes there are also married women but not that many. From my research, I have come to the following conclusions :- 1. Married men who are listed on dating sites are usually looking for free sex with other women. They may claim to be looking for friends but what they actually mean is friends they can have sex with without giving anything in return. Of course most single men too are looking for the same, but this topic is about married men. 2. Most married women who place their ads are usually looking for real friends they can talk too and not really for sex although sometimes it ends up with that. Of course there are a few who are looking for that as they are not satisfied with their husbands but this is very minimal. The gist of my blog is meant for the women out there as to whether would you waste your time with a married man knowing he has nothing to offer you? When I was much younger, I was very firm about not getting involved with a married man. Let alone a married man, I would not even get involved with a man who was attached or engaged. I had turned down many men in such situations as I always felt that I would not want to break up a relationship. Yes being young I was very emotional and could get easily carried away with sweet words even though they were lies, so I preferred to stay away from such men. Now that Im much older and experienced and have been through alot, which have made me a much smarter and stronger person, my opinions have changed. Im not saying I would get involved with a married man but what Im saying is that I would not get involved or waste my time with a man who has nothing to offer me, whether he is married or not. However if I do decide to get involved with a married man, i would expect some gains in return since he cannot offer me a relationship. And under no circumstances would I ever ask him to leave his wife and children. In fact I would encourage him to treat his wife well. I suppose it will be a win win situation. I am taken care of and he gets what he wants without any committment. However I would never waste my time with a married man, even chatting or exchanging emails if he has nothing to offer me and wants my time for free. Now I have reached a stage in my life where I realise my time is precious and only those who deserves it and able to compensate for it gets it. My time is not free to be given to just anyone who has nothing to give in return. A man who is married is already a minus point unless he is very successful and although married is able to at least provide some form of material gains to a woman he chooses to have fun with. These days, most women, especially the matured experienced and intelligent onces are not that easily taken in by sweet nothings. They expect more from a man and even more if he is married and not able to give a strings attached relationship. When I say more, I mean more in terms or material gains after all the man is making use of her for sexual favours, so he has to give something in return. Lets face facts, many men who have nothing to offer a woman but just want free sex would claim mutual satisfaction. Fact is that, while men find it difficult to get sex sometimes even from their own wifes, women have no problems getting it. All it takes is for the woman to place a profile stating she is seeking men for sex and just see the thousands of responses she would get from men who are more than happy to oblidge for free. However the same cannot be said for men, and that is why many men have to resort to seeking out escorts and paying for it. I suppose thats why male escorts especially in asian countries dont get any much clients, as why would a woman pay for something which they can get for free, the same reason a man pays for something he cannot get for free or have difficulty getting for free. Getting back to the title of my blog, my question to women out there is, would you waste your time and spend it with a man who is married, has nothing to offer you and just want to have sex and make use of you for his own satisfaction. He is not even willing to provide an material gains nor compensation for your time. Would you be willing to waste your time with such a person and expect absolutely nothing in return? For those women who answer, I hope you will answer how you honestly feel and not what you think others would expect you to answer. There is no reason for you to be ashamed if you feel that the saying 'no money, no honey' is accurate, as I believe after the numerous bad experiences I have had with men, that saying could not be further from the truth. Please note that the above statements are my own opinions, you have a right to your own opinion and also that although I am speaking generally, there are always exceptions to the rule. Would love to know how other women out there feel about this. |
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9/5/2008 11:11 pm |
I went through a shortlived phase in 2003, when I was exploring an alternative lifestyle. I am of the "can't knock it till you've tried it at least twice" school of life. Save children, other women, bestiality, scat and pee. I don't have to touch those to know I won't like them. Married men also qualify under this category. Not my cup of tea. But none of my business either if others choose to do it as long as it doesn't harm third parties.
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9/1/2008 7:36 am |
<<<< Must look up Candygram when im in her neck of wood 
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9/1/2008 6:00 am |
Rufie, thanks for your comments, but from my personal experience, the men who claim they are seeking a woman for mutual satisfaction are usually those as stated in the blog, who have nothing else to offer a woman and just seeking freebies. Also from my experience, then men who claim its mutual satisfaction are usually the selfish kind who only cares about his own satisfaction and would just lie there and expect the woman to do all the work. Sorry but just being honest based on my personal experience.
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9/1/2008 5:58 am |
Candy, thanks for your comments. As you said, you know what you want and you are in this just for the sex so yes it may not matter to you whether he is married or not and does not matter if he has nothing else to offer you as you are only looking for sex, as you have made it clear thats what you want with no commitments. And yes as you said, you are different from most women especially asian women. Thats what I meant by there is always exceptions to the rule Most women do tend to get emotionally involved even though they start out as just seeking sex, then later they start looking for more from the man, especially if they are involved with just 1 man and then they realise they are at the loosing end, since they give the man satisfaction and end up just being used and get nothing in return, while he goes back happily to his wife. And thats when the man who is married will start facing problems.If they are involved with many men at the same time, then probably this situation does not arise. Thanks again for sharing
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9/1/2008 5:41 am |
kapsy, thanks for your comments. Yes I agree that women too know what each other want and need. problem is many women especially the inexperienced young women do not know themself what they want. They think they want something until they get it and then they realise thats not actually what they want or its not enough. I suppose all women go through that, and it takes years and lots of experience to know for sure what you want. For instance, many young women think they want love and that love is the greatest thing, but when they get a guy who loves them alot but cant give them any material things, then they realise that love is just not enough. This is just one example. Of course there are many others. Thanks again for your comments.
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9/1/2008 5:34 am |
  
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9/1/2008 4:38 am |
I like mutual satisfaction.
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 9/1/2008 3:50 am |
Indeed must say a very well researched subject don't you feel that the women also know what each other wants and needs???.
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9/1/2008 3:45 am |
I've dated many married and single men from this website and another called love access. I'm just looking for sex without a commitment, so I guess I am different than "most" females. I don't care if the man is married or not. 
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9/1/2008 1:56 am |
Indeed must say a very well researched subject don't you feel that the women also know what each other wants and needs???.
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