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It is painful to lose people. Particularly the nearest. The nearest are not always the relations. Yes, the numbed heart refuses to accept things. The alert mind whispers to forget. But the numbed heart wants to play dumb as well. It is sad to lose people. Memory of the loved will be pleasant, yet brings more pain as the loved is not near about. Yes, the heart wants nearness, physical nearness. Or is it really the heart? I often confuse here. Sometimes the heart parties with the body, otherwise why the heart wants physical nearness? I am not sure. For, I have lost people too. And I have longed them back. Yet I am not sure what is it that I longed for?? Loss is painful. Its memory even more so. Yet, if and only if, we get back what the heart longs for, will the heart be happy? Can we be the same persons again? Aren't we different now, from what we were then? Sometimes it helps to listen to the mind. But, mind is not the 'I'. and we don't listen to him. Heart definitely is more of the 'I'. But sometimes the heart is in error. And not all errors are wrong!! Love is pleasant in union, painful in separation, diminishing in a companionship and often not so pleasant in reunion. Only a very balanced mind can help maintain the commitments made during periods of ardent love. Love may not endure as love as it was on the first day of love. Love may last longer as commitment and compassion. This is possible when the heart listens to the wisdom of the mind. |
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7/29/2008 1:55 am |
This is precisely the reason why I don't want to fall in Love. I have come very dangerously close 3-4 times but always was saved. Each time I came out a bit stronger than the last time. Very satisfactory. My philosophy is, if you don't have this thing, you can't lose it. And this is one luxury I can live without. Falling is easy but remaining fallen is an enormous task. VASHALAN
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7/29/2008 3:26 am |
THANKS EX. BUT DON'T YOU THINK IT IS WISE TO BE FOOLISH SOMETIMES? I AM STILL NOT SURE. PERHAPS YOU ARE RIGHT. THE INTOXICATION IS ADDICTIVE. ONE SEEMS TO BE CRAVING FOR MORE. THIS IS ONE CASE WHERE THE DEADDICTION MUST COME FROM WITHIN. STAY AWAY AS LONG AS YOU CAN. STILL I AM NOT SURE. BUT THERE IS ONE AREA I AM VERY VERY SURE ABOUT. THAT IS MARRIAGE. MARRIAGE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE THE WAY WE SEEK THE SAME. MARRIAGE, IF AT ALL ONE WANTS TO EMBRACE IT, SHOULD BE MORE OF A CONTRACT RATHER THAN THE JOKE IT IS MADE OUT TO BE. IT AUGHT TO BE A CLEARCUT AGREEMENT WITH PROVISIONS FOR PROPER PERFORMANCE AND PENALTIES FOR NON PERFORMANCE. AND THERE AUGHT TO BE A PERFECT EXIT POLICY AS WELL. NO POINT IN PREVAILING OVER A DEAD BODY!
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7/29/2008 10:36 pm |
love the quest that is in every strong heart.. takes a strong heart to love.. takes a lot of exposure .. a risk to allow a person to see the most vulnerable side of u  I always think it is worth the risk          
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7/29/2008 11:10 pm |
Rach, it takes a stronger heart not to love. In love, a guy loses all he made for himself all through his past life. He definitely lose his intellect and act the top fool around. I read somewhere that he smiles without reason all the time, even when he got constipation  VASHALAN
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7/30/2008 11:19 am |
 silly... quite the wall u have built up there.. make it too thick and no woman ever will be able to break it.. u should never entirely close every door 
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7/30/2008 6:44 pm |
ex and iflirt, one may not be a strong one if one falls in love at the drop of a hat.(something like the at first sight ones) It takes a stronger person to stay away from love. However, only the strongest succeed in loving and staying put in that condition. Yes, it takes plenty of character to love something/someone for a lifelong time. I agree with Ex in that if you love not falling in love, that won't be successful without a lot of character.
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