Betrayal in Friendship
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A unique blend of affection, loyalty, love, respect, trust and loads of fun is perhaps what describes the true meaning of friendship. But true friends are hard to find, most of the time, people land up with wrong people, who are difficult to adjust with. It has become more difficult to find a person, who can be blindly trusted and looked upon in need. With the increasing selfishness and materialist approach, betrayal of friendship has become very common and coping up with a broken friendship is quite hard, more so if you have no fault of yours. But, life goes on and you make new friends. You push away your hurtful past and learn a valuable lesson from it. Sometimes the reason why friends betray you is just not known, which leaves you with a feeling of guilt that may be something went wrong from your side. In case of betrayal, you feel hurt, confused and angry. You demand answers as to why have you been betrayed for absolutely no fault of yours. The talks end abruptly, phone calls are not returned and there is no contact whatsoever. Hate it as much as you want, you will have to come to terms with reality and accept that things were not meant to be. When friends let you down and are not there for you when you need them the most, it’s very hurtful. Don't be embarrassed to cry and scream. You have been hurt and you have the right to vent out your frustration and once you take out all the frustrations, you will feel a lot better, after seek out other friends and talk to them, take out time from your busy schedule and explore world again. Once you overcome the dejection phase, you will be surprised to see that it was not very difficult. All that you needed was to make yourself understand that this friend was not meant for you. Also, remember these betrayals are experiences that taught you valuable lessons in life especially about your compatibility and your priorities in life. Make sure you do not become intolerant after all betrayals should not stop you from trusting people and making new friends. Remember, in this world of back stabbers, there are still some people who are worth being friends with. They have to be recognized and respected for being best friends, for the lifetime. |
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10/9/2009 5:58 am |
U ARE CORRECT. ......Learn from yesterday, Live for today, Hope for tomorrow....
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10/9/2009 6:19 am |
NO time TO play THE game OF trust! the gOd in me greets the GoD in u
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10/9/2009 9:27 am |
msmystery is much more confused then me
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10/9/2009 1:09 pm |
How about your own betrayals.  Practice what u preach.
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10/9/2009 9:28 pm |
 hey msm an excellent blog i must say and after knowing you so well personally you are the best, so honest, true thats why your friends admire you a lot. Because of you i have got so much, thanks so much, I can never forget the treasure you have given me. God bless you. No one can be like you in today's world, so honest, good character, good heart, intelligent and beautiful person as a whole. love you always. Keep writingKareena
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10/9/2009 11:45 pm |
 Mystery....You posted a very true statement...it made my memory refreshed while reading your statement ..I can feel my pulse getting faster stronger with every thought of betrayal.It breaks my heart; it makes me sad to think of all the times we had. You made me laugh and you made me cry. And all that I can do is sigh and wonder why.X1
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10/10/2009 1:17 am |
U ARE CORRECT. thnks a ton my dear for vising my blog Take care
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10/10/2009 1:41 am |
:>Mystery....You posted a very true statement...it made my memory refreshed while reading your statement ..I can feel my pulse getting faster stronger with every thought of betrayal.It breaks my heart; it makes me sad to think of all the times we had. You made me laugh and you made me cry. And all that I can do is sigh and wonder why.X1 Its not me who betrays, the lack of trust destroyed your peace of mind and so called friendship. pls. learn to trust others. Take care
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10/10/2009 2:03 am |
How about your own betrayals. Practice what u preach.Thanks for vising my post n for ur comment. Our actions (what we do) should always be consistent with our words (what we say). If am going to tell others what to do, I know how to hold myself to the same standard.......... Take care
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10/10/2009 2:12 am |
NO time TO play THE game OF trust! For me, Trust is not the GAME, it is one of the main essence of friendship. I believe, without trust, there is no foundation for friendship or any other relationship for that matter. i cant force others to think the same way. Thanks for your visit n comment..... Regards msm
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10/10/2009 2:18 am |
msmystery is much more confused then me meeeeeeee....confused........???? u must be joking no? its high time 3rdeyee grow up. anyways thnx for vising my blog
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10/10/2009 2:34 am |
hey msm an excellent blog i must say and after knowing you so well personally you are the best, so honest, true thats why your friends admire you a lot. Because of you i have got so much, thanks so much, I can never forget the treasure you have given me. God bless you. No one can be like you in today's world, so honest, good character, good heart, intelligent and beautiful person as a whole. love you always. Keep writingthank you so much for visiting all my posts n for ur comments. you know me well n understand me, but there are people who dont trust me. anyways its not my problem. dont thank me for anything i have done nothing. whatever god has given you keep it safe and be happy. gbu Take care msm
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10/10/2009 3:13 am |
Sometimes when you get betrayed, it becomes so unbelievable to you that you think of a 'fool' of yourself. You think how fool you were to have believed that person blindly. To have loved him to the deepest core and then get ditched by the same person. Then you look at the world and still find few hands stretched towards you. But the old betrayal has already taken its toll and now you can hardly believe anybody coz you don't wanna make a fool of yourself ever again. A catch 22 position and an unending dilemma spread through your mind and heart. Life can never be the same again ..........
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10/10/2009 3:35 am |
Mystery...I never mistrust anyone...but when we meet new ppl then it takes a time to trust them.well i think you had bad experience about me will you give me some tips how do i learn to trust others?
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10/10/2009 5:49 am |
Sometimes when you get betrayed, it becomes so unbelievable to you that you think of a 'fool' of yourself. You think how fool you were to have believed that person blindly. To have loved him to the deepest core and then get ditched by the same person. Then you look at the world and still find few hands stretched towards you. But the old betrayal has already taken its toll and now you can hardly believe anybody coz you don't wanna make a fool of yourself ever again. A catch 22 position and an unending dilemma spread through your mind and heart. Life can never be the same again ..........
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10/10/2009 7:14 am |
True. But some times misunderstandings estrnge good friends. We must guard against misunderstandings.
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10/10/2009 7:30 am |
perhaps i dont like to grow up msm. I atleast here not follow any path for sure.
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10/10/2009 7:54 am |
True. But some times misunderstandings estrnge good friends. We must guard against misunderstandings. Thank you, Regards msm
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10/10/2009 8:32 pm |
    UW
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10/10/2009 11:33 pm |
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10/14/2009 4:56 am |
Hey msm07 nice blog. Well I personally believe the feeling of betrayal comes only when something is expected from a friend. The best way 2 remain happy is dont expect anything.... And after keeping this mind set, if u get something, u will be very pleased. Just try it once. All the best
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10/15/2009 3:29 am |
Hey msm07 nice blog. Well I personally believe the feeling of betrayal comes only when something is expected from a friend. The best way 2 remain happy is dont expect anything.... And after keeping this mind set, if u get something, u will be very pleased. Just try it once. All the best You are right, most misunderstandings or conflicts really stem from unmet expectations. But what is relationship without expectations. Afterall we are human.. and expectations and human go together. Thanks a lot for your comment. Take care msm
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10/30/2009 5:58 am |
MsM, I'm sorry for the anguish you've been through. I find the behaviour of your friends childish. They could have at least said something to you clearly in no uncertain terms. The worst thing about a trauma is when it's executed on a cold whim without warning because they were having an 'off' day demonstrating they don't feel any sense of responsibility towards you despite your history together. Friendships drift apart, it happens, nothing is permanent. Personally, if a friendship is seriously not working for me, I tell the other party why at least with a phone call instead of leaving them guessing before I take my leave. It's called being an adult and showing some basic respect to another human being even if they've been unintentionally unpleasant to you. I've had a couple of former friends plead with me, but it was only because they missed having a neutral person to rant and rave to oblivious to the fact that all they could talk about was themselves and not because they could set themselves aside nor truly wanted to understand my point, that I could only help them so much without becoming a mere convenience. Some folk feed on negative reinforcement and attention but don't actually want to do anything to change and help themselves. It's a drag, you can only drag me so much in a downward spiral before I have to cut loose. If people have cut off friendships with me I haven't noticed, because I don't seek them out for the sake of not being alone. I like my own company. I don't want to be a limpet and I still have to de-limpet myself very occasionally. For me a friendship is when you come together because of common interests or to work together towards a common goal or passion. I don't have to see or talk to them at every opportunity every week. That's a bore - there are better things to do like read or otherwise work on myself. I heartily dislike dependant relationships when the power balance is off. When one party is taking up far too much time than the other can more than sensibly give, or one party thinks they're superior to the other in some way.
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11/2/2009 10:46 pm |
Msm , how are you? Its really hurting , but please dont expect anything from anybody. And moreover people are not fair in telling thier prefrences , and friends in this age look for friendship to gain one or another thing , maybe fysicals or some materialistic gains, .Still as u concluded , there are many people trustworthy, and pure at hearts , like you. take care and enjoy
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11/7/2009 3:51 am |
ms your coreect but you know how people can behave here some are very fickle about friendship talking one day stabbing you in the back the next day ..such is life on all chat sites ..sorry to know you got hurt huggz jay
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11/10/2009 4:29 am |
MsM, I'm sorry for the anguish you've been through. I find the behaviour of your friends childish. They could have at least said something to you clearly in no uncertain terms. The worst thing about a trauma is when it's executed on a cold whim without warning because they were having an 'off' day demonstrating they don't feel any sense of responsibility towards you despite your history together. Friendships drift apart, it happens, nothing is permanent. Personally, if a friendship is seriously not working for me, I tell the other party why at least with a phone call instead of leaving them guessing before I take my leave. It's called being an adult and showing some basic respect to another human being even if they've been unintentionally unpleasant to you. I've had a couple of former friends plead with me, but it was only because they missed having a neutral person to rant and rave to oblivious to the fact that all they could talk about was themselves and not because they could set themselves aside nor truly wanted to understand my point, that I could only help them so much without becoming a mere convenience. Some folk feed on negative reinforcement and attention but don't actually want to do anything to change and help themselves. It's a drag, you can only drag me so much in a downward spiral before I have to cut loose. If people have cut off friendships with me I haven't noticed, because I don't seek them out for the sake of not being alone. I like my own company. I don't want to be a limpet and I still have to de-limpet myself very occasionally. For me a friendship is when you come together because of common interests or to work together towards a common goal or passion. I don't have to see or talk to them at every opportunity every week. That's a bore - there are better things to do like read or otherwise work on myself. I heartily dislike dependant relationships when the power balance is off. When one party is taking up far too much time than the other can more than sensibly give, or one party thinks they're superior to the other in some way. Thank you so much for vising my blog section and for your wonderful comment. I saw you many times here but never got a chance to talk to you. I understand get to know ourself is better. Fears, desires and fantasies make it hard to see ourselves as we really are. But only through self-knowledge can we overcome the parts of ourselves that get in the way of happiness, self-respect and success. Take care
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11/10/2009 4:31 am |
Msm , how are you? Its really hurting , but please dont expect anything from anybody. And moreover people are not fair in telling thier prefrences , and friends in this age look for friendship to gain one or another thing , maybe fysicals or some materialistic gains, .Still as u concluded , there are many people trustworthy, and pure at hearts , like you. take care and enjoyLong time......how are you doing? Dont worry  am not expecting anything from anyone.Thanks for your comment n Take care
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11/10/2009 4:32 am |
ms your coreect but you know how people can behave here some are very fickle about friendship talking one day stabbing you in the back the next day ..such is life on all chat sites ..sorry to know you got hurt huggz jay Am glad that you visited my blog section. Thank you so much. Regards msm
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