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Frens please send to all Indians especially to guys who has non-indian girlfriends (let them see wat they r missing)!!
It seems that an article was written to a well founded magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from Indian men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more)!!!
This letter was written in response to an article:
Dear Editor: I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Indian male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Indian female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none.
As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public.
I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of, 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones,James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte,Sydney Poitier,Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks,Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now,I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Indian men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.
Response:
Dear Editor:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old indian man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house.
So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Non-White men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to.
Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Indian males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Indian women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us,make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to controL and walk over their white women.
I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women. Non-Whites like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestn! ut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock married strong Non-White women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt,you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Non-White women who were breastfeeding and raising your ! babies during slavery. It is the Non-White woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
Indian women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Indian women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Indian Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is! why I have fallen in love with Indian women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so,then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips,hips,and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
A wife answers the door bell and a man asks her, "Lady, do you have a vagixx?" and she slams the door shut.
The next day the wife answers the door bell and its the same guy and he asks her, "Lady, do you have a vagixx?" and she slams the door shut.
The woman tells her husband about the guy and he says he will stay home from work the next day and this time she should tell the man she has a vagina and see what happens.
The door bell rings, the woman answers the door, the man asks, "Lady do you have a vagixx?" to which she says, "Yes, I do."
The man then tells her, "Well then tell your husband to make use of it and stay away from my wife."
These days there seem to be various internet scams. Despite the awareness being created about it, there are still people who get cheated. I sometimes dont understand if these people are just too innocent or plain stupid. Many people have tried to scam me but as Im very aware, no one has succeeded. In fact I even tried to warn all the people on one of the scammers list that he is a scammer and later I received a message from her saying my warning came too late as she has already lost 100000 bhat. She was from thailand. This means that many people still fall for those scams.
Im sure most members here are aware of the various scams, however for those members who are not aware, the following are the usual scams that scammers will try.
1. Marriage scams (for women)
This is usually done by africans and nigerians whereby they would impersonate a white/caucasian man and will even send a photo of a good looking white man. As many women are seeking white men for marriage, they find it easy to fool such women who would go to any extend to marry a white man. After initial contact, they will declare that they love you and want to marry you. They will even claim that they will visit your country within a short time. When you fall for their words, they will then come up with some tragedy that has fallen on them, such as they were travelling and were robbed etc and ask if you could help them by sending money to them. Most of these people would claim that they are travelling to Africa for business and there they were robbed. Actual fact is they are in Africa and has never left the country and as they need you to send the money to them, they have to claim to be travelling there.
Another trick would be they will claim to love you so much and want to send you gifts, even if u say no, they will insist that they want to send you gifts and take care of you thus they also want to send you money which they will send by courier. Here they will even provide a contact number which sometimes can even be in london as they have a syndicate throughout the world. They will claim that they are sending a substantial amount of money in a locked box. You will receive a call from a so call person who claims to be from the courier company having a package for you. He will then tell you that in order to collect the package, you will have to pay a few thousand which will be lesser than the amount supposedly in the box. When you question them, they will claim that as the box was kept with the pilot due to security reasons, the amount needs to be paid before collections. This are all fraud cases.
Please do not send any money or pay any money to collect any package. Please note that any courier delivery has to be paid by the sender and not the receiver.
One way to avoid the above scam is to insist on seeing the person on cam. If he claims he does not have a cam, you can rest be assured that its a scam
2. Marriage scams (for men)
These are also done mostly by nigerian or russian women and sometimes by african and nigerian men impersonating a woman. They will send you a picture of a gorgeous sexy woman and tell you that they are seeking love and want to marry you. They will even have erotic chats with you and when you fall into their trap, they will ask you to send money to them either to visit you or for their further studies etc or even for treatment of their mother who is seriously sick.
Again do not send money to any women in the above cases unless you have seen her on cam and knows that she is genuine.
3. Death scam
This is the most common again by africans and nigerian. The emails are usually addessed at Cote De Ivory, Abidjan claiming their father died or was killed and left a huge amount of funds amounting to millions which they require your assistance to transfer or to invest in your country and will promise you a huge commission. Once you agree, they will ask you to pay a substantial amount to process the legal papers etc. After you send the money, thats they end of it, you will never hear from them again.
4. Commission payment scam
This emails again from the same people will thank you for your assistance in helping them claim some funds and will request you to contact their so called secretary to get your share of commission, again they will ask you to pay a certain amount to process the payment.
5. Sex scams
This scams sad to say are mostly done by indians. They will contact you especially if you are one who is providing any kind of services to foreigners etc. They will claim to be visiting your country, and that they require your service. They will even tell you that they are willing to pay whatever you want and that money is not a problem. They will then even confirm their dates of visit and how many days they require your services. Then they will ask you to send naked/nude pictures and also to write them in detail what all you are going to do with them and ask you to give explicit details. In actual fact, then men are losers just looking for cheap trills, they cant even afford 1 hour of your time, but will boast that money is not a problem for them. Their aim here is to get naked/nude pictures of women and to have women write them erotic mails. Never agreed to send naked pictures or give explicit sexual details in a mail. They will try very hard to convince you that they are genuine. But trust me, genuine clients will never ask for naked pictures and erotic mails.
The above scam are what I have compiled from many people. If anyone has any other scams, please share it to create awareness.
I find it very amusing when I receive mails from men who claim that they are happily married thus they are only interested in a no strings discreet relationship. I wonder what these guys are thinking when they pass such a statement. Who are they kidding. I would have thought that if a person is happily married, they would not even go to such sites to meet other women as they are already happy (as they claim) with the woman in their life. Isn't that what happily married means or is there another meaning to it which Im unaware of. Only a person who is not happily married or unsatified in his marriage would seek someone else, isn't that true. I mean why would a person who claims to be happily married seek something more. I think men should think carefully before passing such statements as it only makes them look like a fool. A person who is happy would not even think of cheating on his wife. The reason a person seeks something more is because he feels what he has in his life is not enough which means he is not satisfied which means he is not happy. Ok I know Im repeating myself, but I guess you all get the point of what Im trying to say.
Marriages breaking down are so common these days. One of the biggest factors for this is most often a third party.
Sometimes a woman gets involved with a man not knowing that he is married as he deceives her. In such cases I guess you can't really blame the woman but once she finds out, I feel its only right for her to leave him. Afterall a scum like that is not worth it.Although I know its easier said than done as by the time the woman finds out, there may be feelings involved and if she is not someone who is emotionally strong, the breakup maybe devastating.
Anyhow there are also many instances where a woman knowingly goes after a man despite knowing he is married, seduces him and tries to force him to leave his wife and kids for her. There is no such thing as it just happens. I think we are all responsible for what we do, especially when a woman gets involved with a married man knowingly. Would this same woman say 'it just happens' if it happened to her? I think we should all ask ourself that. Some of these women who go around stealing other womens husbands and bf feel they have the right to judge others and they forget what they are doing.
How would you handle the following situations :-
1. If you got involved with him not knowing he was married - what would u do when u found out.
2. If you know he was married, would you get involved with him in the first place?
3. What would you do if another woman stole your husband or boyfriend?
I think it would be interesting to know what women out there would do in such situations. Please feel free to share your thoughts on this.
How many of us can say that we have been totally honest in our profile? Well I know I can, and even my picture is my own.
I guess most of us has experienced meeting or chatting with someone who was not totally honest about himself/herself and also placed someone elses photo. There have even been cases of some women attaching a porn stars photo to their profile and the men are silly enough to actually believe that its the members photo. Maybe women pasting porn stars photos does not happen on IFF, but it happens on other dating sites. As for the men, go to international dating sites and you will find many indian men placing pictures of bollywood stars to deceive women from other countries. I have seen so called profiles of Hrithik Roshan, Abishek Bachan, Vivek Oberoi and many others.
Why do people need to lie and attach someone elses picture. I guess its because they are insecure about the way they look or embarass about the way they look. And its funny that these women who place porn stars pictures actually very proudly accept compliments about the picture knowing very well that body belongs to someone else. And even worse is that the men are silly enough to believe that the picture belongs to the person he is chatting with. I even know a few women who sends a picture of a different woman to every man she chat with. Of course this was discovered when the men exchanged notes and pictures.
As for the men, most men who state prefer not to say under marital status more often than not are married, single men would simply say single. Why hide the fact that you are married?. Also many of the profiles are pliagarised from others, as Ive seen many of profiles having the same statements when describing themself.
Maybe those who have experienced being lied to and being send someone elses photo would like to share their experience.
To all those who do the above, I only have one advise, be yourself and dont be ashamed of who you are. If you dont want to attach your photo, dont attach any instead of attaching someone elses and fooling people. Eventually the truth will be known.
Heres a hilarious rib tickling retort to lay out boozer, dumbbells, liars etc. The tongue-in-cheek reference romp will put the right retort in the right head at the right time.
BOOZERS
1. Once he went to a party incognito - stone sober
2. A judge told him 'Its alcohol and alcohol alone thats responsible for your condition. He answered "You've made me very happy judge. Everyone else tells me its all my fault".
DUMBBELLS
1. A traffic court judge asked him, "have u ever been up before me?" He said, "I don't know judge. What time do u get up".
2. He's applying for an insurance policy so that if he should bump his head, they would pay him a lump sum.
3. He shot his wife while buying a house because the contract read : "Execute all 3 copies together with your wife".
4. Worried about her poor reflexes, her doctor asked her, "Do you ever wake up with a jerk?". She replied, "I'll have you know I'm pretty choosy about my boyfriends".
EGOTISTS
1. If he is self made, he has no one to blame but himself.
LIARS
1. When his conscience bothers him about something he's done to u, he'll come to you in a straightforward way, and lie about the whole thing.
PLAYBOYS
1. The first thing he notices about a girl's looks in whether she looks available.
2. He doesn't want to take a girl out and do things, he's rather take her in and undo things.
3. There has been many a times when he decided to take a wife. His big problem is, whose wife to take.
