LONELINESS...THIRST FOR LOVE AND CARE...THESE CAN MAKE ONE TOTALLY DEPRESSED... UNPREDICTABLE EVENTS MAKE OUR LIVES HORRIBLE...BUT WE SHOULD FACE IT... HOW WITH THE HELP OF GOOD FRIENDS, DIVINE THOUGHTS, SELF CONFIDENCE...??? EASY TO ADVISE...I AM HERE TO EXPRESS SOME OF MY THOUGHTS AND DREAMS...EXPERIENCES...!!!
CAN U COME WITH ME INTO MY WORLD??? I WILL BE HONOURED..!!!
A one-dollar bill met a 20 dollar bill and said, "Hey, where've you been? I haven't seen you around here much."
The twenty dollar bill answered, "I've been hanging out at the casinos, went on a cruise and did the rounds of the ship, back to the United States for awhile, went to a couple of baseball games, to the mall, that kind of stuff. How about you?"
The one dollar bill said, "You know, same old stuff, church, church, church."
THERE IS NO INFLATION OR MARKET COLLAPSE IN HEAVEN
Men are more likely to act out their inner turmoil while women are more likely to turn their feelings inward.
The following chart from Jed Diamond's book, Male Menopause, illustrates these differences.
Female depression Male depression
Blame themselves Feel others are to blame
Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated
Feel anxious and scared Feel suspicious and guarded
Avoids conflicts at all costs Creates conflicts
Always tries to be nice Overtly or covertly hostile
Withdraws when feeling hurt Attacks when feeling hurt
Has trouble with self respect ]Demands respect from other
Feels they were born to fail Feels the world set them up to fail
Slowed down and nervous Restless and agitated
Chronic procrastinator Compulsive time keeper
Sleeps too much Sleeps too little
Trouble setting boundaries Needs control at all costs
Feels guilty for what they do Feels ashamed for who they are
Uncomfortable receiving praise Frustrated if not praised enough
Finds it easy to talk about weaknesses and doubts Terrified to talk about weaknesses and doubts
Strong fear of success Strong fear of failure
Needs to "blend in" to feel safe Needs to be "top dog" to feel safe
Uses food, friends, and "love" to self-medicate Uses alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self medicate
Believe their problems could be solved only if they could be a better (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) Believe their problems could be solved only if their (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) would treat them better
Constantly wonder, "Am I loveable enough?" Constantly wonder, "Am I being loved enough?"
The most common problem associated with male menopause is depression which is closely related to impotence and problems with male sexuality. Approximately 40% of men in their 40s, 50s and 60s will experience some degree of difficulty in attaining and sustaining erections, lethargy, depression, increased irritability, and mood swings that characterize male menopause.
The symptoms of male depression are different than the classic symptoms we think of as depression
- Men deny they have problems because they are supposed to "be strong"
- Men deny they have a problem with their sexuality and don't understand the relationship with depression
- The symptom cluster of male depression is not well known so family members, physicians, and mental health professionals fail to recognize it.
Male depression is a disease with devastating consequences.
To paraphrase from Jed Diamond's book Male Menopause
- About 80% of all suicides in the US are men - The male suicide rate at midlife is three times higher; for men over 65, seven times higher - The history of depression makes the risk of suicide seventy-eight times greater (Sweden) - About 20 million American will experience depression sometimes in their lifetime - About 60-80% of depressed adults never get professional help - It can take up to ten years and three health professionals to properly diagnose this disorder - About 80-90% of people seeking help get relief from their symptoms
What to Do About It?
It is important to recognize the syndrome because most men will not see it in themselves since their most basic psychological defense is denial.
It is important to realize that most men seek help only when pressured to do so by significant people in their life.
It is important to realize than men can be helped through a variety of approaches including exercise - diet - getting in touch with their spirituality - individual and group psychotherapy - medications - teaching men to recreate the social supports they have lost or never had - teaching men to love and accept themselves for whom they are
Medications
There are a number of excellent antidepressant medications now available. No one medication is perfect and it is very important to choose and monitor therapy carefully.
