Express your love How simple it would be if you could just tell your girlfreind/wife/boyfriend/husband “I love you” as many times as possible during the day? Foundation for a strong relationship or what! Instead we think up of all kinds of alternatives to these simple words and end up by not communicating properly the extent of our involvement with the other person. Result? Your husband or significant other might be left with an empty feeling because he believes he is not loved!
So what should your attitude be? Whether it is you or your husband who is the person with the communication problem, remember that if you listen hard enough, you will surely hear the hidden meaning of love that is evident in differently expressed words, or actions like an impulsive hug that says much more than words. Open gestures like giving of gifts, cards or even tears of joy can go a long way towards expressing one’s love. As will impulsive hugs and smiles of sheer joy. Most times it will pay to look out for these signs and appreciate the love thus expressed – and remember to forgive your partner if he does not reciprocate likewise by recognizing your attempts at conveying your love.
What you have to understand is that any outward expression of anger does not automatically mean lack of love. Listen carefully and you will soon get to recognize the covert language of underlying love that has eluded you so far. Stop looking only for negative signs that stand for rejection. Learn to look under the surface and you will soon know what I mean. Come out of the scary world that is a result of lack of communication or love – all you have to do is to learn to listen effectively so that you are quick to understand the power of love that exists beneath the surface.
1.Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
2.Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.
3.love the person whos love you not them whoms you love..
Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most, if not all of us, will face. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.
1.Say it. When you say the words "I Love You," do they carry it with them the desire to show someone you love them or do they carry it with them is it what you want to feel? And when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person
2.Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your
3.experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
