Follow Your Dreams in Life Jul 1, 2009 8:26 am 1454 Views We all have dreams and visions, you can make your dreams come true, take the impossible and turn it into the possible. To truly live is to follow your heart, to realize that you can achieve your dream and be who you were meant to be. Whether you are just starting this journey of life as a youth fresh out of grade school, or a middle age person, it is time to live your life. The smart people listen to their heart, desires and ambitions in spite of everything and go on to live their dreams. During your life you have made a mistake or two, and you have to live with them. However you can overcome your past and create your dream future. To do that you need to know what your dream is. Nobody ever (and I do mean nobody) accomplishes their dream life by wishing. You have to work at it a little bit at a time. You have to make progress a step at a time. First you must resolve a path. Then decide what steps to take to get there. To determine what those steps are you have to set goals. Sometimes you even have to put deadlines on those goals. Goals are simply stepping-stones. You set a goal to achieve something then set tasks to achieve that goal. Whenever you are setting a goal or two, you sometime find that your path has been blocked. Always research several alternative ways to reach your goal. You should do this just in case the most obvious path comes out short of the end. Be prepared to change and adapt. Have a few plans ready to go. Even a loose idea of a plan is better than nothing. Systematically re-check and as needed redefine your goals. It's not worth the wasted time to struggle to meet a goal that no longer fits with your life. During obvious stopping spots along the way, take a day to sit back check yourself about how you are reacting to reaching this milestone. Dreams are on the inside, don't let anything steal your dream. Dreams are a series of images, ideas emotions, and sensations occurring involuntarily in the mind during certain stages or sleep. Hold fast and follow your dreams. Don't quit, dare to dream big dreams, the sky is the limit, go after your dreams, all things are possible. Achieve your dreams. Make your dreams come true follow it with your whole heart. Hold fast and follow your dreams. Keep the dream and word alive in your heart. 8 Comments

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON Jun 18, 2009 11:03 pm 1869 Views Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there…to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never realize your potential, strength, will power or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere; safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create whom you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but also because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things. Make every day count. Appreciate everything that you possibly can, for you may never experience it again. Talk to people whom you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you. Create your own life and then go out and live it. 34 Comments

LTR=LOVE, TRUST and RESPECT Jun 15, 2009 1:20 am 1431 Views In 1967 the Beatles sung their all famous song "All you need is love". Although the word 'love' is repeated more than 100 times in the song, in reality there is more to a relationship than just love. LTR explains that a relationship has three elements that belong together. Together they make the relationship. These elements are: • Like/Love, which is a natural feeling of affection one has for somebody else • Trust, which is the feeling of security that someone else will not hurt or harm you, and • Respect, which is the feeling of added value that someone provides to you or to the environment A relationship consists of the three elements. The intensity of each respective element can be from initial to very intense and from positive to negative. Hate is a feeling of love. It is just a intense negative form. A good relationship has a balanced positive combination of Love, Trust and Respect. LTR explains that by nature Like/Love comes first, followed by Trust and ultimately by Respect. TO LOVE IS TO TRUST To love is to trust; Sad, but it’s true That trust against lust Can cause you to rue The day that you met - Your love. To trust is to respect That love will do too, And without that respect Trust against lust Will never stand true - To your love. (By Corinna Turner) HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS Sometimes it feels impossible to find someone who's right for you - and who thinks you're right for him or her! It's totally normal to look at the world through rose-colored glasses in the early stages of a relationship. But for some people, those rose-colored glasses turn into blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship isn't as healthy as it should be. Hopefully your boyfriend or girlfriend will treat you as fabulously as you're treating him or her. Not sure if that's the case? Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet, and think about whether your relationship is healthy. Does your relationship have these qualities? Mutual respect Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes, but it's because you're pretending to act like someone you're not!) The key is that your boyfriend or girlfriend is into you for who you are - for your great sense of humor, your love of sci-fi movies, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something, and then back off right away? Respect in a healthy relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands - and would never challenge - the other person's boundaries. Trust You're talking with a guy at the gym, and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool or keep walking because he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes - jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when he or she feels jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other. Honesty This one goes hand in hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest. Have you ever caught your girlfriend in a major lie? Like she told you that she had to work on Friday night, but it turned out she was at the movies with her friends? The next time she says she has to work you'll have more trouble believing her and the trust will be on shaky ground. Support It's not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart, but can't take being there when things are going right. In a healthy relationship, your sweetie's there with a shoulder to cry on when you find out your parents are getting divorced, and you're ready to celebrate when he or she scores that job promotion. Fairness/equality You need to have give and take in any healthy relationship. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time. Separate identities In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started dating, you both had your own lives - your own families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc. That shouldn't change. You should also feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward. Good/Open communication You've probably heard lots of stuff about how men and women don't seem to speak the same language. A classic example: We all know how many different meanings the little phrase "no, nothing's wrong" can have, depending on who's saying it! But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication might not happen in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give you some space to do that if you ask for it. If your relationship does not include all of the qualities above it may not be as healthy of a relationship as you might have thought. If it does, Great! Maintaining healthy relationships can be difficult at times but hang in there. If your not one of the lucky ones, you might find yourself asking so what’s an unhealthy relationship? CAN CHEATER"S BE FORGIVEN? When it comes to matters of the heart I have one golden rule: If I can’t trust you, then I can’t love you. It’s just that simple, because in my book, the two go hand in hand. Think about it for a moment: If your mind can never be at ease because you think your partner is doing dirt; then what kind of loving relationship is that? You’re spending more time tearing the relationship down by snoopin’ and worrying than actually building it up to something worth wild. People always talk about the feeling and emotions of love, which is fine, but what solidifies it all is trust. You have to really love and trust someone to be willing to let them raise your kids, have access to your personal accounts and share your bed with them at night. Those aren’t things you let just anyone do—or maybe that’s just me. A husband should be able to trust his wife with his life and vice versa. Anything less is unacceptable for my marriage and lifelong love. Now what happens when the bond of trust is broken? The feelings of love may still remain, but let’s face it, things are changed forever. You can never look at that person the same. He or she lied, cheated and misled you, so you’d be a fool to believe anything they ever said again. It’s like that old adage: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” Sure you may want to work things out and actually forgive, but will you really ever forget? That doubt will eat away at your relationship and pop up in every argument. Now everyone is entitled to make mistakes and you should make room for forgiveness in your heart, but once there’s a precedent for cheating and lying, it’s virtually impossible to fully regain trust. See, once trust has been sullied the once-pure love that existed between a couple becomes tainted as well. I for one give everyone the benefit of the doubt initially, but once you cross me you’re placed in my “do not trust” box. That’s the only way I can protect my heart from further damage. At the end of the day, no one can do anything to you that you don’t allow them to do and I refuse to love someone I can no longer trust. How do you guys feel about the correlation between love and trust? Can one exist without the other? Can you ever truly fall in love with a person you can’t trust? Have you ever been cheated on or lied to but somehow found a way to forgive that person in the name of love? Did the relationship survive or was it doomed from the start? How important is trust to your relationships? 15 Comments

I WANT.. Jun 3, 2009 3:41 am 1486 Views I want to think the world is fair. That everyone is honest and good. I want to believe that anything is possible. I want to be oblivious to the complexities of life and be overly excited by the little things again. I want to live simple again. I want to believe in the power of smiles, hugs, a kind word, truth, justice, peace, dreams, the imagination and mankind. 18 Comments

Lover’s Waltz Jun 2, 2009 9:03 am 1319 Views Lets waltz through life for eternity Dance the lover’s dance I need your body close to me As the years they do advance We’ll tread the boards forever Hands holding hands Well take on all life’s endeavour Stop the falling sands Across the dance floor we will glide Together both as one Heaven will always be at my side As we dance in unison So will you take my hand my sweet And waltz forever more Together we will be complete As we take to life’s dance floor 8 Comments

DESIDERATA May 15, 2009 1:15 am 1362 Views (Desiderata is something desired as essential,the things u desire. Desiderata is Latin and means 'things that are yearned for', which in the context of the poem more closely means 'essential things'. ...) Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the the world is full of trickery. But let not this blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all it's sham drudgery and broken dreams; it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. -- Max Ehrmann 8 Comments

RISK May 12, 2009 2:19 am 1377 Views To laugh is to risk appearing the fool To weep is to risk appearing sentimental To reach out for another is to risk involvement To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self To play your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss To love is to risk not being loved in return To live is to risk dying To hope is to risk despair To try is to risk failure But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave He has forfeited freedom Only a person who risks…..is free 8 Comments

POINT OF VIEW May 12, 2009 2:18 am 1308 Views I’ve heard it said, “Don’t go to bed While hanging on to sorrow. You may not have the chance to laugh With those you love tomorrow.” You may not mean the words you speak When anger takes its toll. You may regret your actions Once you’ve lost your self control. When you’ve lost your temper And you’ve said some hurtful things, Think about the heartache That your action sometimes brings. You’ll never get those moments back, Such precious time to waste, And all because of things you said In anger and in haste. So if you’re loving someone And your pride has settled in, You may not ever have the chance To say to them again, “I love you and I miss you And although we don’t agree, I’ll try to see your point of view, Please do the same for me.” 2 Comments

ALWAYS REMEMBER May 12, 2009 2:11 am Mood: content, 1370 Views Always remember to forget The things that made you sad. But never forget to remember The things that made you glad. Always remember to forget The friends that proved untrue. But don’t forget to remember Those that have stuck by you. Always remember to forget The troubles that have passed away. But never forget to remember The blessings that come each day. 6 Comments

Anything is Possible... Jan 30, 2009 5:42 pm 1507 Views If there was ever a time to dare, to make a difference, to embark on something worth doing, IT IS NOW. Not for any grand cause, necessarily... but for something that tugs at your heart, something that's your inspiration, something that's your dream. You owe it to yourself to make your days here count. HAVE FUN. DIG DEEP. STRETCH. DREAM BIG. Know, though, that things worth doing seldom come easy. There will be good days. And there will be bad days. There will be times when you want to turn around, pack it up, and call it quits. Those times tell you that you are pushing yourself, that you are not afraid to learn by trying. PERSIST. Because with an idea, determination, and the right tools, you can do great things. Let your instincts, your intellect, and your heart, guide you. TRUST. Believe in the incredible power of the human mind. Of doing something that makes a difference. Of working hard. Of laughing and hoping. Of lazy afternoons. Of lasting friends. Of all the things that will cross your path this year. The start of something new brings the hope of something great, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. Written By: © Author Unknown 12 Comments

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